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38 | The Hidden Reason Your Child’s Dysregulation Feels So Triggering

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Do you ever feel like your child’s meltdowns instantly shift something inside you…before you even have time to think?
Do you find yourself reacting in ways you wish you could change, even when you truly want to stay calm?
Have you wondered why your child’s dysregulation feels so triggering…and what that means about you as a mama?
 
In this episode, we’re diving into the hidden reason your child’s dysregulation feels so triggering and why staying calm isn’t as simple as trying harder.
If you’re parenting a strong-willed or neurodivergent child navigating meltdowns, defiant behavior, ADHD, ASD, PDA, or ODD tendencies, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.
You’ll begin to see how your own dysregulation and emotional regulation play a role in the cycle and why present parenting starts within you. Instead of focusing only on your child’s behavior, we shift towards awareness and understanding the deeper patterns of parenting through moments of chaos.
This episode will help you feel seen, understood, and equipped with awareness and a new perspective when things feel overwhelming.
Mama, peace is not out of reach...it begins with awareness and grows as you reconnect with truth.
 
Challenge of the Week:The next time you feel triggered, pause and ask yourself, "What’s happening inside me right now?"
Notice your body, your thoughts, and your emotions...without trying to fix them. Invite the Holy Spirit into that moment and allow Him to guide your next response.
 
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DisclaimerI am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.
 

37 | Feeling Overwhelmed by Meltdowns? You Don’t Have to Get It Right Every Time

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Do you ever feel overwhelmed by your child’s meltdowns and wonder if you’re getting it all wrong?
Find yourself praying for just one peaceful moment in your day?
Do you feel pressure to stay calm… but inside you feel anything but?
Wonder if it’s even possible to rebuild connection when you feel this exhausted?
 
In this episode, we’re slowing everything down and taking a breath together. If you’re parenting a strong-willed or neurodivergent child navigating meltdowns, dysregulation, or defiant behavior often seen in ADHD, ODD, PDA, or ASD, this space is for you.
When emotions run high and your nervous system feels overwhelmed, it can feel like you’re constantly reacting instead of responding. This episode isn’t about adding more to your plate...it’s about releasing the pressure to get it right every time and gently stepping into emotional regulation as a present parent.
Mama, even in the messy moments, you are not failing...you are learning to show up with grace, one moment at a time.
 
Challenge of the Week:This week, when you feel overwhelmed, pause for just a moment. Take one slow breath and gently say, “I don’t have to get this right… I just need to stay present.”
Let that be enough. No fixing. No pressure. Just presence.
 
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DisclaimerI am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.
 

36 | Emotional Regulation in Parenting: Why Your “Easy” Child May Be Struggling Too

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Do you ever feel stretched between your kids, like one needs so much from you… and another is quietly getting less?
Have you noticed one child getting quieter… or maybe even starting to act out in ways that don’t make sense?
Do you ever assume your “easy” child is fine… just because they’re not the one having meltdowns?
 
In this episode, we’re diving into emotional regulation in parenting and how it impacts the entire family dynamic when you’re raising a strong-willed or neurodivergent child. When one child is experiencing meltdowns, dysregulation, or defiant behavior often associated with ADHD, ODD, PDA, or ASD, it’s natural for your attention to go there.
But what about your other child? We’re talking about what happens when a child becomes quiet, withdrawn, or even begins acting out, not because something is “wrong,” but because they’re navigating their own emotional needs.
You’ll begin to see how your own emotional regulation and awareness as a present parent creates space to rebuild connection with both children. This episode will gently help you shift from reacting to behavior to understanding what’s underneath it, so you can practice present parenting with more peace, clarity, and compassion. Mama, you are not missing it… you’re learning to see it differently.
 
Faith Anchor:
Psalm 127:3“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.”
Challenge of the Week:This week, gently notice your “easy” child.Not with pressure… just awareness.Take one small moment to connect.A question, a hug, a few undistracted minutes.Ask the Lord, “Show me what I might not be seeing.”You don’t have to do it perfectly… just stay present.
 
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DisclaimerI am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.
 

35 | When Your Child’s Defiant Behavior Feels Personal (What’s Really Going On)

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Do you ever feel like your child’s meltdown is somehow about you?
Do you find your emotions rising just as fast as your child’s during meltdowns?
Have you ever walked away from a hard moment feeling like you failed?
Do you wonder why your child’s behavior feels so triggering… even when you don’t want it to?
 
In this episode, we’re diving into why your child’s meltdowns can feel so personal and what’s really happening underneath those intense moments. If you’re raising a strong-willed or neurodivergent child, whether that looks like ADHD, ASD, PDA, or ODD, you know how quickly dysregulation can take over both you and your child.
We talk about what is happening in the body during meltdowns, how both you and your child can enter a dysregulated survival state, and why your thoughts about the moment can make it feel even heavier.
You’ll also learn how emotional regulation is not about staying perfectly calm, but about building the capacity to stay present without collapsing or reacting.
This episode will help you shift from taking behavior personally to understanding it through the lens of present parenting and building connection. Mama, you are not failing. You are learning how to show up differently, and peace is still possible.
 
Faith Anchor:“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” — Romans 12:2
When we begin to notice our thoughts and gently align them with truth, we create space for peace to enter even the hardest parenting moments.
 
Challenge of the Week:This week, notice one meltdown or hard moment with your child. Instead of trying to fix it right away, pause and ask yourself, “Are one or both of us in survival mode right now?” Then focus on staying present, even if emotions are still there. Mama, it’s not about being perfectly calm. It’s about building the capacity to stay with yourself and your child in the moment.
 
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Disclaimer
I am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.
 

34 | Strong-Willed or Neurodivergent Child Refusing Everything? Why Power Struggles Happen

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Do you ever feel like every request you make turns into a power struggle with your strong-willed child?
Wonder why your child refuses even the simplest things like getting dressed or starting schoolwork?
Feel discouraged when your child’s behavior seems defiant or dysregulated no matter how calm you try to stay?
Wish you knew how to build connection instead of battling constant meltdowns?
 
In this episode, we’re talking about what may really be happening when your strong-willed child refuses everything. Many Christian mamas raising a neurodivergent child with ADHD, ASD, PDA, ODD, or other regulation challenges feel stuck in constant power struggles that lead to meltdowns, power struggles and dysregulation.
 
Instead of seeing refusal only as defiant behavior, we explore how a child’s nervous system may be responding to pressure, overwhelm, or loss of control.
You’ll learn how emotional regulation in the parent can shift the entire dynamic and how building connection can help calm a dysregulated child.
We also talk about how present parenting and present parent awareness help you pause and rethink what your child’s behavior actually means.
When you begin responding from connection instead of pressure, cooperation often grows naturally.
 
Mama, even in the middle of the hard moments, peace and connection are still possible.
 
Faith Anchor:“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” — James 1:19 (NIV)
This verse reminds us that slowing down matters. When we pause before reacting, we create space for wisdom, patience, and emotional regulation to guide how we respond to our child.
In this episode, I also shared a personal story about practicing long suffering with my own child. Sometimes my child takes days to complete chores instead of doing them right away. In those moments, I realized I still get to decide what I make that behavior mean about my child and about our relationship.
 
Challenge of the Week:This week, when your child refuses something, pause before reacting. Ask the Father how He sees your child in that moment. Then gently respond with connection instead of pressure and notice how the dynamic begins to shift.
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Disclaimer
I am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.
 

33 | Present Parenting: Showing Up as the Mama You Want to Be During Meltdowns

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Do you ever walk away from a meltdown feeling like you didn’t show up as the mama you wanted to be?
Have you wondered how to stay calm and emotionally steady when your strong-willed or neurodivergent child becomes dysregulated?
Do you sometimes feel caught between the way you were parented and the kind of present parent you want to become?
Wish you could respond with peace instead of reacting in the heat of the moment?
In this episode, we’re talking about present parenting and what it means to show up as the mama you want to be during meltdowns. If you’re raising a strong-willed child or neurodivergent child navigating ADHD, ASD, PDA, ODD, or defiant behavior, you know how quickly parenting moments can become emotionally intense. When your child becomes dysregulated, it’s easy for our own emotions to follow.
But present parenting invites us to pause, practice emotional regulation, and focus on building connection instead of reacting from pressure or fear.
Together we explore how many mamas feel caught between the parenting styles they were raised with and the new path they feel called to take with their child.
This episode will encourage you to approach those moments with compassion for yourself while learning how to show up with steadiness and faith. Even in the middle of meltdowns, peace is possible when we anchor ourselves in truth.
 
Faith Anchor:Ephesians 4:22-24
Reminds us to put off your old self,[a] which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, 23 and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, 24 and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.
Mama, this verse isn’t about perfection.
It’s about transformation.
Little by little, moment by moment, we are becoming more like the person the Father created us to be.
 
Challenge of the Week:
This week, I want to invite you to pause during just one hard moment with your child and ask yourself one simple question:
Who do I want to be in this moment?
Not what should my child do.
Not how do I stop this behavior quickly.
But who do I want to become right now?
What version of myself do I want them to see in this moment?
Do I want to model for them the easy reaction of the moment or do I want to show them a way that while it may take more practice and patience…will pay dividends into our future?
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Disclaimer
I am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.
 

32 | Mama, Meltdowns and Defiant Behavior Do Not Define You

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Do These Questions Sound Like You?
Do relentless meltdowns and defiant behavior ever make you quietly question yourself?
Have you wondered if parenting your strong-willed or neurodivergent child means you’re somehow behind?
Do you love your child deeply but still feel stretched by their behavior.
Wish you could stay anchored in peace instead of spiraling in doubt after a hard day?
 
Mama, this episode is for you.
In this episode, we’re stepping away from strategy and into identity. If you’re parenting through meltdowns, dysregulated moments, and defiant behavior especially while raising a strong-willed or neurodivergent child it’s easy to let outcomes shape how you see yourself. We talk about emotional regulation, building connection, and what it means to be a present parent in the middle of ADHD, ASD, PDA, ODD, and other challenges that impact present parenting. You’ll be reminded that your child’s dysregulation is not a verdict on your worth. This episode speaks life over the mama who feels tired but still shows up. Peace is not found in perfection it’s found in anchoring your identity in Christ.
 
Faith Anchor:“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.” — Numbers 6:24–26 (ESV)
Even in the middle of meltdowns and defiant behavior, God’s peace is not withheld from you. It is spoken over you.
 
Challenge of the Week:Instead of evaluating your parenting performance this week, look for one moment of growth. One pause. One repair. One steady response. Place your hand over your heart and pray, “Father, remind me who I am in You.” Let peace lead instead of pressure.
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DisclaimerI am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.
 

31 | What Holding Space Looks Like in Moments of Dysregulation

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Do you ever feel torn between walking away during a meltdown and staying present and wonder which one is “right”?
When your strong-willed or neurodivergent child is dysregulated, do you feel your own emotions rising just as fast?
Do you find yourself trying to fix, control, or shut down the moment and then feeling guilt afterward?
Have you prayed, “Lord, help me stay steady,” but still feel overwhelmed in the chaos?
 
In this episode, we’re unpacking what it truly means to hold space during moments of dysregulation for both you and your child. Whether you’re parenting a strong-willed child, a neurodivergent child with ADHD, ASD, PDA, or ODD , or navigating defiant behavior during meltdowns, this conversation will meet you right where you are.
You’ll learn how emotional regulation begins with you, why your child borrows steadiness from your nervous system, and how building connection happens even in the hardest moments.
We’ll talk about the difference between detaching, controlling, and staying present and why holding space is not about fixing the meltdown but regulating yourself first. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, unsure, or exhausted by parenting through emotional intensity, this episode will gently remind you that peace is built in the long game.
Mama, you are not failing you are growing into steadiness.
 
Faith Anchor:
Matthew 26:36-46
 
Challenge of the Week:Practice in the small moments this week. Notice when your body feels activated. Notice the urge to fix or flee. Take one slow breath and whisper, “Lord, help me stay present.” Not for perfection just for one moment of choice. That’s where emotional regulation grows.
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DisclaimerI am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.
 

30 | When Your Neurodivergent Child Regresses: A Coaching Call for Discouraged Moms

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Mama, 
Have you ever wondered if your child’s regression is somehow your fault?
Do you feel guilt when your strong-willed or neurodivergent child struggles?
When your child seems dysregulated, do your thoughts spiral into self-blame?
Wish you could respond with peace instead of pressure during meltdowns?
 
In this episode, you get to be a quiet fly on the wall during a real coaching session with a Christian mama raising a neurodivergent child with ASD who is currently experiencing regression. We gently unpack the guilt, overwhelm, and mental exhaustion that can rise when parenting child with special needs including ADHD, ODD or PDA. We talk about emotional regulation, how our thoughts create cycles of shame, and how to begin building connection with ourselves instead of spiraling into self-blame. You’ll hear how to replace “It’s my fault” with truth-based thoughts rooted in faith, and how to process emotions in a healthy way rather than suppressing them. We also explore how meltdowns and regression do not automatically mean failure, but may be part of healing and growth. If you’ve ever felt alone in parenting a child who doesn’t fit traditional parenting, this conversation will remind you that you are not failing you are learning. And mama, peace is possible when you anchor your thoughts in truth and invite the Holy Spirit into your parenting.
 
Faith Anchor:“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7) 
When guilt or overwhelm rises, remember that you were never meant to carry it alone. The Father cares about your child and about you.
Challenge of the Week:When you notice a wave of guilt or overwhelm, pause. Ask yourself, “What am I thinking right now?” Then gently replace that thought with one truth you can stand on. Write it down. Pray over it. Practice it daily.
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How to find Joanna:
Joanna is a Christ following Calligrapher, Engineer Major, wife, homeschooling mama of four and Host of the Keeping Beautiful Handwriting Alive podcast. She started Calligraphy in 2020 and knew she found her passion. She is an active member of the Missoula Calligraphy Guild and IAMPETH, a national Calligraphy organization. She started Wild Plains Calligraphy to pass down the joy of beautiful writing to the next generation and make it effortless for busy homeschooling mamas to teach their children the art of handwriting. 
Podcast: Keeping Beautiful Handwriting Alive
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DisclaimerI am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.
 

29 | What If a Pause Is the Missing Piece in Parenting Meltdowns

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Do you ever wish you could pause before reacting when your child’s meltdown catches you off guard?
Have you noticed how fast your emotions rise when parenting feels overwhelming or defiant?
Do you long to stay connected to your strong-willed or neurodivergent child, even when things feel tense or dysregulated?
Have you prayed for peace in the moment but struggled to find it when emotions run high?
 
In this episode, we’re talking about the pause and why it may be one of the most powerful tools in parenting, especially when navigating meltdowns with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child. We explore how emotional regulation begins in your body before it ever shows up in your words, tone, or reactions. You’ll learn why so many parenting struggles aren’t about a defiant child, ADHD, ASD, PDA, ODD, or dysregulated behavior, but about urgency in our own nervous system. We’ll unpack how pausing helps shift you out of survival mode and into presence, allowing space for calm, clarity, and building connection. This episode gently reframes parenting away from control and toward steadiness, reminding you that regulation happens before correction. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of what’s happening in your body during stressful moments and how that pause can change the emotional atmosphere in your home. Mama, peace is possible and you don’t have to do this alone. God meets you right in the middle of the moment.
Faith Anchor :
I therefore a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worth of the calling to which you’ve been called 2 with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain unity of Spirit in the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:1-2 (ESV)
This verse reminds us that patience and gentleness aren’t traits we force, but fruits that grow when we slow down and walk in step with the Spirit. When we pause, we make room for love to lead instead of pressure.
 
Challenge of the Week:
This week, ask the Father for one small space in time when emotions rise. Practice taking one deep breath before responding during a meltdown or tense moment. Whisper a short prayer like, “Lord, help me respond from peace.” Even one second of pause is a victory.
 
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Disclaimer
I am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.